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Thursday 24 November 2016

I SUPPORT DEMONETIzATION


                              

                       I SUPPORT DEMONETIzATION

PM Modi’s move of banning Rs. 500 and Rs. 1000 notes in order to go after the black money 17 days back, has served more purposes than intended and expected of it.
These days of inconvenience, money crunch and social decries have been like a sieve to filter out the true colours of patriotism and self-acclaimed nationalists.
Let me first talk of the politicians, the so-called public servants. The way the opposition has united, no surprise, yeah, only reiterates that politics is all about spitting and licking. Mamta Bannerjee joins hands with the long-time enemy-Left. The new age saint of Indian Politics, Shree shree shree Arvind Kejriwal, Congress, Lalu Prasad Yadav, the socialist Sage Mulayam Yadav, Mayawati all have wedded and are singing in chorus. Who are they voicing for- the common men?
I sense that as soon as somebody in India wins an election, the first notion he imbibes is that the common men are fools. Maybe because he knows that he doesn’t deserve to be what he has become. Also, it seems that we don’t know what is good for us and what is not. We can be beguiled easily. We have no sanity to decide whom and what cause needs our support. We don’t act as society but as individuals.
Now, the masses, I include myself, must admit that we are fools; actually, bigger than what our Netas think of us. The greatest lacuna in Democracy is not that people fail to choose the able rulers but, they fail to choose a constructive and responsible opposition. Unfortunately, the opposition acts to its literal meaning. It’s high time to make the people who sit in the opposition understand their role.
To be honest, I am not a supporter of BJP and during twenty-five years of my life as a voter, only once, had I voted in favour of the current ruling party.
Every one of us, even with a pinch of literacy and little knowledge of current affairs, know about the plague called Fake Currency. Who among us, has not been duped, of course unknowingly, with the illegitimate currency notes and endured embarrassment?
Once, when I was depositing some cash in my saving account, the woman at the bank counter returned a 500 rupee note saying that it was fake. The bank staff knows me and that was the reason she politely asked me to change it. I have seen them crossing the forged notes and chastising the bearer for presenting it. I check all my notes before going to deposit them since then.
The outcry of the inconveniences, the long queues at the banks and the ATMs, the chaos, People dying, the bank staff suffering, the daily wage earners starving, the misery of the hawkers and small business houses- everybody is suffering. No denying. That’s true.
But, just forget it. Please, I urge, just forget everything just for a minute and think of the soldiers who undergo similar inconvenience (not for the last 17 days but for months and years) only because they chose to be in Army and opted to earn their livelihood by guarding our borders.
I use the word ‘Choose’ because I have heard people saying ‘they themselves have chosen their profession and the Demonetisation has been forced on us’.
I wish, some more insanity (if at all, it is insanity) hits our PM and he passes another law that every Indian must serve in the Army at least for a year, when he turns 18, to be eligible to use any of the public provisions and utilities including driving licence, Ration card, admission in government run educational institutes, government jobs, and treatment in government hospitals.
People say ‘It’s my money. Why am I denied to withdraw and use it? It is nothing less than dictatorship. It is like emergency.’
So, it is your country. Why only a few must look for its safety and die for it?
Come on! Who among us doesn’t know the benefits of demonetization in the current scenario? Why are we so restless? Why can’t we give it time?
Let’s forget who’s doing it. Focus on the implications and outcome. I don’t know Economics but, I know the implications of only 4.5 crores of people paying income tax out of 130 crores.
Just give it a thought.


Thursday 25 August 2016

THE DEFINITION OF GRACE- WAHEEDA RAHMAN











THE DEFINITION OF GRACE- 
                                       WAHEEDA RAHMAN


A perfectly and exquisitely carved out face. Dense midnight-black hair flowing over shoulders. A few locks dancing on the face teasing the emotive and enticing eyes.The arched eyebrows looking down on the sweeping velvety eyelashes. The wheatish saffron-tinted complexion with a tinge of shyness humbling the golden sunlight. As if, God himself has sculptured her.
The song "Chaudhanvi ka chaand ho " perfectly corroborates it.



Satyajit Ray and Amitabh Bachchan are among the admirers of this quintessential beauty.
Satyajit Ray said that she was the most stunning woman he had seen.
And, Amitabh Bachchan thinks that nobody has quite the charm and beauty of Waheeda Rahman.
The legendary Guru Dutt's obsession for her is known to everybody.

To me, Waheeda Rahman is the poise, grace, dignity, decency, delicacy , womanhood all blended and personified. She had spelled a cast over me when puberty had not hit me and I knew little about the significance of the man-woman relationship
You may call it a hangover, but even today, if you ask me to name a woman I find the most gorgeous in a sari, my answer will be Waheeda Rahman. The lustre of her beauty is brighter than all the stars. She is more than just a divinely beautiful face on the screen. Her dances and emotive prowess helped her to be named as one of the finest actresses. Even now,at 78, she looks stunning.

To me, real beauty is sacred and not seductive. It should evoke spirituality. If a man feels aroused by merely the looks of a woman, then, it is the shallowness of his character or maybe, sensuality overshadowing the grace. Real beauty educes divinity and respect. It will not let your eyes incline beyond her neck. That's where I put Waheeda Rahman. It's remarkable that even when covered from head to toe, she looked sensuous. That's my definition of beauty. It doesn't need bare cleavage or thighs. Seeing her and being her admirer too early, my views and idea of womanhood are largely inspired by Waheeda Rahman's persona. The thing is still the same.  



 I vaguely remember that her first movie that I saw was "CID" in which she played a vamp. I was a kid then and obviously, a negative character didn't impress me. 
A couple of weeks after, the Doordarshan showed "Teesri Kasam". I noticed her in the role of a village Nautanki dancer. Then came "Guide". After watching it, I started recognizing her and remembered her name. However, she made a niche in my heart after I watched "Khamoshi". A teenager judges an actor on his or her screen presence and not on acting ability. I watched these movies in my adolescence and began to admire her for her roles.  


 Waheeda was born into a traditional Muslim family. She was a skilled danseuse trained in Bharatnatyam. It was her father's untimely death that forced her to seriously consider a career in films. From 1956 to 1962 she worked only for Gurudutt. 

She has been a part of some of the greatest Hindi films.


"Guide" was ahead of its time. It's considered one of the masterpieces of Bollywood. There are a few instances when a film outdoes the book it I based on. "Guide" is one such film. Rosie Marco was a character no heroine would have agreed to play. People said that she was a vamp. Rosie is one of the ridiculous women in Hindi cinema. She is a rebel. She leaves her husband to follow her dreams, commits adultery and then dumps her lover when he doesn't live to her expectations. The era was different from the one portrayed in "Guide". 



Watch her in songs "PIYA TOSE NAINA LAGE RE...", and " AAJ PHIR JEENE KI TAMANNA HAI...". Simply unforgettable and irreplaceable she is. And, doesn't she rightly deserve that the fabulous Dev Anand sings for her, "LAKH MANAA LE DUNIYA, SAATH NA YE CHOOTEGA... AAKAR MERE HAATHON ME, HAATH NA YE 
CHOOTEGA...". 
Rosie's whimsicality would have been devastating for Waheeda's career but, she chose to do it and today, even after half a century, that stellar performance remains in the list of the most memorable performances in Indian cinema.

Her character Alka in "Kala Bazaar" too, was far ahead of her times. The cocktail of Waheeda's spontaneity with Alka's uncompromising morality took that character to a different level.
 All the songs in "Kala Bazaar" are memorable but I liked Waheeda's gestures in response to her puzzled parents' inquiring stares, lying on the top berth of a train compartment while a mischievous Dev Anand teasing her with an ambiguously worded song - "UPPARWALA JAANKAR ANJAAN HAI... APNI TOH HAR AAH EK TOOFAN HAI ".  It is always fun to watch this song.






Waheeda as the village nautanki dancer Hirabai in "Teesri Kasam" is mesmerizing. To me, that's the second-best Performance by my favorite actress. I can't imagine another actress doing that role to that perfection. She is astonishingly and breathtakingly beautiful in "Teesri Kasam" as much that the black & white doesn't bother. It's sheer ecstasy to watch her face doing the complete act. The calm, the caressing eyes exploring the confirmation of reciprocation in Raj Kapoor's eyes, her submissive smiles, and the translation of emotions by the silent gestures, everything is a treat for the film lovers. "Teesri Kasam" is a real classic with the story, screenplay, direction, acting, music and songs, everything tremendous. Waheeda Rahman's persona added to the marvel of the creation. Her eyes do magic in the song "PAN KHAYE SAIYAAN HAMAAR, SANWALI SOORAT PE HONTH LAL LAL..."



And, "Khamoshi", the timeless and mesmeric film. Most rank it the best movie of 60's. I can write endlessly about this movie. Unarguably, the best role essayed by  Waheeda Rahman. She effortlessly plays a devoted nurse (Radha) and a jilted lover. The trauma of a lacking professional who fails to keep her  emotions separate from her occupation.  The compassion and feelings can be heard in her silence. Her eyes are the most vocal in this 1969 classic. The nurse Radha in "Khamoshi" will stir you, shake you and if you are emotional, you will weep. You would fall for her and would feel anxious to bring her out of her trauma. And, the piercing poetry in the lyrics of the great Gulzar sahib adds to the marvel. The songs "HUMNE DEKHI HAI UN AANKHON KI MAHAKTI KHUSHBOO..." ,  "TUM PUKAAR LO..." , "WO SHAAM KUCH AJEEB THI..." are all ageless numbers. Youngsters too, love them.

Who can forget her National award bagging role in " Reshma Aur Shera"? She lived to perfection the transformation of Reshma's character from a giggling rustic girl to an erotic lover to a rebellious daughter to a tragic woman. This film was a flop but the Waheeda Rahman enacted an unforgettable role making Reshma immortal.

She had a small but significant role in "Sahib Biwi Aur Gulaam". I will not talk about this film. However, I loved her in the song "MERI BAAT RAHI MERE MAN ME...". It's one of the iconic songs of Asha Bhonsle and Waheeda Rahman subtly brings in all emotions and feeling matching the wondrous lyrics of  Shakeel Badayuni.

Another gem she has contributed to is the song from "Pyaasa" - "JANE KYA TUNE KAHI...JANE KYA MAINE SUNI...". Please pardon me for repeating it every now and then, but, but, I really love her eyes and the way they talk. And the elegance. No wonder she is my dream woman.

Her dance postures and the conveyance of her devoted love towards the so-full-of-attitude Dev Anand in "RANGEELA RE..." from "Prem Pujaari" has an unfading charm. 

The ethereal Waheeda Rahman has an indelible impression on me since my childhood. I so admire this woman that she is like an angel to me. She is the only woman I didn't mind to see wearing her hair in two braids otherwise I hate them. She is one of the very few people who has aged gracefully as she has ever lived her life. Hats off.



Her angelic smile is enough for a traumatic man to forget all his pain. Her silence is so vocal and again, sorry for that, her eyes are so expressive they don't leave much for her pleasing voice.

I am not hopeful that she would read this but if the God makes a mood and sprinkle any pint of good fortune on me and she happens to read this...then, 

With all respect, Dear Waheeda ji, this is for you.




Wednesday 3 August 2016

KISHORE KUMAR BOLLYWOOD'S ONE AND ONLY ALL-ROUNDER




                                       KISHORE KUMAR

    BOLLYWOOD'S ONE AND ONLY ALL-ROUNDER











Kishore Kumar aka Kishore Da, as most of the music enthusiasts across the world call him, is the voice that has influenced the taste of all lovers of Hindi songs in some way.

Kishore Kumar excelled as the 
playback singer, actor, lyricist, composer, producer, director, screenwriter and every role he played. To me, he is the most successful playback singers of the Hindi Film Industry. Apart from Hindi, he sang in many Indian languages including BengaliMarathiAssameseGujaratiKannadaBhojpuri,MalayalamOdia, and Urdu.

He has won the most Filmfare awards, (eight) in the category of the best male playback Singer.

Right from my childhood, I am his fan. It's an uphill task for me to choose ten best songs sung by him out of the thousands of mesmerising numbers to which his manly voice with great depth and range, has given life but, I can't list all of them. So, here are my ten best songs sung by my favourite Kishore Da.






1.

O Hansini  - Zehreela Insaan 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R4Vj_XsfHTM

"Aaja meri saso me mahak raha re tera gajara aaja meri ratome lahak rahare tera kajara.........." great lyrics, soulful music by R. D. Burman.

2.

Rim Jhim Gire Saawan

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5VzUxxa0c2I

Unarguably, the best song during drizzles. Beautiful lyric and sung from the heart.

3.

Tere Bina Zindagi Se Koi Shikwa To Nahin |

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-HnmVg0-O8
The combo of the greatness of three magicians, Gulzar sahib, Kishore Da, and Pancham. I love this composition so very much.

4.

Aadmi Jo Kehta Hai - Majboor 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-ArgZa-UsAM
I think, everyone who hears this song, connects to it. Piercing words....The genius of Laxmikant Pyarelal, touching words and the emotional singing by Kishore Da...
"koi bhi ho har khwaab to sachha nahi hota bahut jiyada pyaar bhi achha nahi hota..."

5.

Koi Hota Jisko Apna

Film Mere Apne (1971) Music Salil Chaudhary, Lyrics Gulzar

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y8Bgn53YJQY
Just listen to this song. It brings tears to my eyes, every time I play it.

6.

Jeevan Ke Din Chotay Sahi 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QVusJw_Gng8
Lovely inspirational song...Lyrics by U.P. ki shaan Majrooh Sultanpuri...
" yeh zindagi dard bhi hai , ye zindagi hai dawa bhi , dil todna hi na jaane , jaane ye dil todna bhi..."

7.

Jeevan Se Bhari Teri Aankhen- Safar 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6VZDEcwcCak

The sheer poetry in this song is mesmerizing. The romance in words is sure to flatter your muse...
"आँचल का तेरे हे तार बोहत, कोई चाक जिगर-सीने केलिए"...इंदीवर साहिब को प्रणाम

8.

Diye Jalte Hain

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7bh4FebE14A
The best song dedicated to friendship. It's my favourite since the school days.
Indeed Anand Bakshi is one of greatest philosophers of Indian cinema.

9.

Phir Wahi Raat Hai 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C-5WjfVmxKQ
Artists complement each other. Gulzar sahibs heart-piercing poetry combined with the soul-stirring voice of Kishore Da makes it an immortal song.
"
कांच के खाब है
आँखों में चुभ जाएंगे Only Gulzar sahib can imagine such words

10.
Cheel Cheel Chillake - Half Ticket
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BhZvU3mTZR4
What an awesome song!!!!Kishore Kumar was one of a kind!!
Noone can dance and sing like him. I rate it the best humourous song ever made. Loved by the people of all ages, this song is unforgettable.



Sunday 1 May 2016

DREAMING, NOT BREATHING, KEEPS YOU ALIVE


       

         







DREAMING, NOT BREATHING, KEEPS YOU ALIVE


I was doing quite well before my life had a major disaster. Suddenly, I was thrown down to ground from a decent height I had achieved. I was jobless and was meeting ends by taking tuitions in a 50 square feet room. The saddest part was that I had no plan or desire of improving or expanding it. I was tired, ambitionless and dull. I picked up quarrels with everyone who criticized me. The graph of my life had plunged to its deepest and my morale was at rock bottom, though, I feigned it. My ego was at prime. I was earning a meagre fifteen thousand rupees. Life was nothing more than a formality and I was alive just for the sake of my family. I mostly wore unironed clothes, would shave only on Sundays and would wear shoes only when I had to go out. I taught my students wearing slippers.

Then, the calendar turned up to show the magical date of the 5th of May 2005 (5-5-5). I woke up to a telephone call to hear the news of the death of a relative. When I reached their house to attend the funeral, there was some delay because they had been waiting for a distant cousin. I had lived in the same locality before. So, everybody there knew me. An old friend took me to his house for a cup of tea. He revealed the purpose of his hospitality before serving the tea and showed me the ‘Plan’ of a multilevel marketing company. 

I joined it just for my long camaraderie with him. I didn’t work much but I did attend their educational and leadership seminars. That education changed everything about me. It injected positivity in me and made me understand the importance of dreaming.
I remained presentable and cheerful always. The sickening ego drained out of me. I wanted to do more for myself and my family. And, in eleven years following that magical turnaround, I am a different person. I owe the change to the resurrected desire to do something to be able to leave an indelible mark when I finally depart. I am still working on it and have no doubts about accomplishing it.

DREAMS- not those which we see in a state of dormant consciousness with our eyes closed and those which sneak in involuntarily, but those that we see with open eyes with gambolling consciousness, those, which make their presence felt with a gleam in the open eyes.
With my experience of life, I assert that only a person who dreams is truly alive. A person who is privileged to live on this hallowed coliseum of earth must do something worth remembering and appreciable as a price for eating up the natural resources. It is morally wrong to populate a heaven as a parasite.







So, for all those who haven’t started nurturing dreams, here is a push-start button.
Not having any dream or ambition bluntly signifies that nothing motivates you; nothing evokes your interest, you are ill of negativity. All these, together mean that you are dead.
Narrow down your focus. Combat negativity. Keep your motivation up. Relish everything that fires your interest. Search the fuel to light that interest.

You must know what you want. Brainstorm, meditate and find out what you love to do. Find out what invigorates you and what makes you feel fulfilled.

Talk to yourself. Find out your bad habits. Try to improve yourself. Admit your faults and mistakes to yourself and never hesitate to admit them to others. Correct yourself. Every new person you meet has some good traits and some bad. Learn whatever you can from him and ignore his bad traits. Unrealistic planning, bad habits, incorrect beliefs, negative character traits are obstacles. Shun them for good.

One thing we all must know is that it is easiest to change our self.
Be crazy while dreaming. Dream big, really, really big. All big achievers were dreamers once.
Believe it or not, but big dreams are easier to achieve.
If I ask you to hit a ball inside a circle, when it will be easier for you- targeting inside a small circle or inside a big circle?

In a village, there lived a giant on a big tree. When hungry, he got down the tree and wolf down whoever he would find. One day, a tired traveller slept under the tree unaware about the giant.
The villagers woke him up to warn. The stranger wondered why the villagers didn’t do anything to get rid of the giant.
The villagers conceded their debility stating that the giant was too big for them. The stranger propounded that his big size makes his killing easier. He suggested them to call the whole village near the tree. He asked them to take a stone in their hand and wait for the giant to come down. When the giant woke up to devour another life, each villager aimed the stone at him. The giant got hit at different parts of the body and crumpled to death.

Bigger targets are easier to hit.
So, walk out of your comfort zone. Drop the beliefs that limit you. Stop indulging in everything nonsensical. Don’t fritter away your energy on unproductive things. Stop rueing, arguing, overthinking, quarrelling and all such things that are a waste of time and energy.
Inspiration and opportunity can visit us at any time. Always welcome them. Be a good host. Listen to them and don’t discard at once.

Think more of the ways you can be successful than entertaining the ways to fail.  One great characteristic of a human brain is that it can achieve what it perceives. When we tell it that we want to get something, it starts finding and suggesting us the ways to reach our goal. On the contrary, when we tell it once that we can’t get to our goal, it would come up with hundreds of reasons to corroborate it.






Motivation is a verb and not a noun. It demands more action and fewer emotions. Positive affirmations boost your confidence.
Negativity is toxic to success. Don’t be afraid of failure. Failure is not the end result. They have a great worth in terms of experience.

After Thomas Edison succeeded in creating an electric bulb, he said, ‘I didn’t fail, I just found 2000 ways not to make a bulb.’

If you are determined not to give up on your ambitions, failures can’t be permanent.

So, come on. Be brave to take your first steps. Once you do it, you cross the biggest hurdle. Your path becomes clearer. Now, keep saying to yourself, “I have to do it and I will do it.”

1.      FIX YOUR DREAM TODAY-

Sit alone for a while and think. What gives you pleasure? Where do you see yourself in five or ten years from now? What do you want your life like?
Get the answers and hold on to the most appealing thing you want to do.
Your dream should be-



SMART


S- SPECIFIC
             M-MATERIALISTIC
       A-ACHIEVABLE
   R-REALISTIC
       T-TIME BOUND


2.      PASTE IT-

Get some pictures of your dream and paste them everywhere- in every room of your house so that it remains in your vision all the time. Paste it in the washroom, on your study table, and on the television so that whenever you fritter away time needlessly in the washroom or watching TV.

3.      TELL EVERYBODY-

You may hesitate to do so, but telling everybody around about your dream would prove the most helpful in achieving it. When you tell people about your sky-high ambitions (they would consider them so), they would make fun of you and that should work as fuel for you. Also, they would keep on reminding you what you’d told them and their frequent nagging would impel you to keep following your dream.

4.      GIVE IT A DATE-

Binding yourself and your dream with time helps in achieving your goals. A big and long term dream can’t be achieved with a big single leap. To remain focussed, you should divide it into an appropriate number of short -term targets to be accomplished in a fixed period of time.

If you don’t do it, you might be behind it always.



"Many of man's greatest achievements are the products and accidents of their ambition."

Always start your day early. Stop hating people. Harness your ambition so that, it fires you but without burning you.

 And lastly, a message for all students. Love mathematics and study it  as long as possible. If you really have an interest in it, make it a part of your life. It helps you to think logically and believing that every problem has a solution. 

All the best to you all. May all your dreams attain shape.

Let's  dream.




DREAM

BELIEVE

CREATE

Wednesday 27 April 2016

EMPOWERED WOMEN, VULNERABLE MEN



EMPOWERED WOMEN, VULNERABLE MEN


Are we heading towards the other end of gender discrimination?




Mr. Prasad, a post-graduate Physics teacher in a reputed Delhi school, had crossed thirty, completing his education and then establishing himself in his career. He was desperate to settle down. Without verifying things, he asked for the hand of a girl, ten years younger to him. He rented a bigger house and bought new furniture, electronics and other things before they got married. The girl didn't allow him to touch her on the first night. On the second night, when Prasad urged her for copulation she slapped him. After two days, she demanded a diamond ring in lieu of beginning their married life. Prasad complied but she didn't.
Even after fifteen days, nothing happened between them. One day, when Prasad returned from work, he found his house empty. Before he could understand, police reached to arrest him. His wife had filed a complaint against him for harrassing her for dowry.
After a few visits to the women cell, the girl demanded a hefty amount of ten lakhs rupees for an out of court settlement. At last, Prasad had to give four lakhs to get rid of her.




Anti-Dowry laws in India are being misused frequently to harass and extort husbands.
Section 498A of Indian penal code is meant to protect women against marital Cruelty and Dowry harassment. This law enforces the arrest of the husband and his relatives irrespective of their age and health only on the basis of the allegations made by the wife, without any evidence and investigation. It is a non-bailable section and allows imprisonment even before the guilt is established.
Divorce and Child custody laws too, are biased against men.
Domestic violence against women Law- 2015 is one-sided too. It is against the liberty and dignity of an average man.
Not only these, but most of the laws have an astounding scope of misuse. Any evil-minded woman can easily manipulate these laws to harm a man.
Women often file false and frivolous cases against men to teach them a lesson or to extort money from them.
Section 498 A is largely misused by women to settle scores with their husbands and in-laws. The result of a study says that almost 98% of cases filed under 498A are false.


Sumit Kumar, the eldest son of a Delhi Police Sub-Inspector, lives in a nearby apartment. His was an arranged marriage. The girl came along with a decent dowry along with a Wagon R car. Aftermarriage, she would go to her parent's house often. After a couple of months, she started living there more than she stayed at her husband's house. They had quarrel whenever she returned.
She gave birth to a girl child after a year. Everybody hoped that the things would improve between them.
Barely, after two months she went away with all the things she had brought in dowry, including the car but leaving the child with her husband. Sumit's father paid her two lakhs and could not escape from the draconian 498A inspite of being a policeman himself.



Women desecrate the institute of marriage and trust in relationships by misusing these laws for personal gains. They use it for extracting money, to walk out of the marriage due to adjustment and compatibility problems or to get rid of the husband as they don’t want to live with him. Many times, when a girl is forced to marry the man, not of her choice, she resorts to these laws to abolish the marriage knowing that the parents would also support her if they allege the in-laws of violence and unfeasible dowry demands.
There is an urgent need to repeal the laws and introduce gender neutral legislation. If everybody is equal in the eye of law and women demand equal rights, then, the law must consider that a woman, too, can harass a man physically, sexually, financially and mentally. Gone are the days when spousal abuse meant that the victim was wife. Now, men are at the receiving end often. They do face physical and psychological abuse at the hands of their wives.
Unfortunately, the law in India doesn’t recognize domestic violence against men. There has been a spurt in the number of men victims in last few years.
Our society considers it unmanly if a man is beaten by his wife. Men harassed at home, don’t get sympathy outside also. They are a subject of mockery. It is easier for a woman to report harassment but it is opposite for the men. Often, men endure everything for the sake of children for they are the worst sufferers in such fights. So, men don’t report abuse and harassment. Maybe, men need to change as the women are changing.

A Bangalore man approached the police to report an assault by his wife. The cops ridiculed him and threatened him that they would encourage her wife to file a case against him. The man killed himself the next day.


Only the weak, sincere and law-abiding men are distressed by the women. The unlawful minds know well how to play with the law.

Sadhuram, a class 4 employee in MTNL lived with his wife and two teenage sons. They’ve been living at the same address for ten years. Sadhuram was away for some days. In his absence, another man came to live with the family. Nobody doubted. The second night after Sadhuram returned, late in the night, people heard them quarrelling. Sadhuram called the police and claimed that the man who came to live in his absence was his wife’s paramour and had beaten him. The wife claimed that Sadhuram was not her husband but was her brother-in-law and was forcefully living with her after the death of her sister. The two boys, she said, were her brothers. Nobody believed the woman because her revelation was contrary to what she had maintained for ten long years. Police reconciled them and went away. Sadhuram was often beaten by the duo. Finally, he was forced to leave his own house which has a market worth of around sixty lakhs. His wife and her leman live together, shamelessly.  



Why should empowerment be a battle- battle of sexes when it comes to empowerment of women and battle of races, when it comes to empowering backward classes? Because empower in our country is rendered by privileges.
Privileges can’t empower anybody because it kills potentials of both, those who get them and those who don’t. The laws discussed above, are also a form of privileges designed keeping in view the vulnerability of womankind.
Social norms are undergoing change. Women today, want to do everything they were forbidden to do. They want to wear what they want, they want to go out at night, they want liberty about their sexuality because they think men enjoy that, they don’t want a pregnancy, they hate menstruation, they disapprove marriage because of the lifelong commitment it asks for and approve of live-in. Women chose live-in, men welcome it.
We owe the hugely in vogue ‘Live-in’ system to the biased and relationship-killer laws because women are aware of the whip hand the law gives them against the men.
Also, the whole movement of women empowerment is going in a direction that defies the premise of the nature. The woman has to produce children and the man has to be a protector and a facilitator. Men and women complement each other. None of them can be an independent entity. When we try to change the principles of nature, repercussions are inevitable.
Women have successfully proved that if given a fair chance, they can reach the pinnacle of glory in every field. We all acknowledge it. However, they must accept that men too have a big hand in that. Men have realized that the women should get their due and that a productive woman is a boon for a family, society and the country. The only thing is that they are too desperate. Mutual cooperation would make the long journey ahead comfortable and enjoyable.
At the same time, men must also realize why women have to decry of inequality and demand for empowerment. Aren’t men accountable for it?
Relationships are bliss. Let’s not be competitors. Let’s complement each other. Let’s live and let live.

(These are the personal views of the author and have no connection with any person, living or dead.)

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